My sincere condolences to you and your family.

May your mum rest in peace, Shirley.

Sorry to hear such bad news Shirley.

My sincere condolences to you and your family Shirley.

My thoughts are with you in this time of sadness xx

Hi everyone,

Thank you all for your kind comments about mum. We are finding it very very difficult to come to terms with mums quick death, only consolation is she is out of her suffering now, she suffered enough over the last 12 months, last march she started with pain in her mouth.

We did think she might have lived bit longer after her operation, only lasted 9 half months, but we had her that length of time longer even though it was very difficult for her.

She is very sadly missed, and my dad is so lonely, we all stayed with him for a week until the funeral not wanting to leave him out of our sight, but his wandering is becoming uncontrollable. Mum had a beautiful service and burial and dad looked so lost.

He has slept on his own since last friday 4 nights with help of carers coming in, but he is finding it increasingly harder on his own, but we had to do this to see if he could live on his own. It is such a worry leaving him on his own, everytime the phone rings I jump. Social worker coming to assess him tomorrow, his life is in their hands.

Never realised losing my mum would be so hard, the feeling of emptyness never goes away, and knot in my stomach. People say it gets easier but time will tell.
Shirley

Shirley,

I know how you feel I lost my mom when I was 23. She was ill as long as I could remember but she was able to do things with me as a kid but she did go in the hospital occasionally. As I got older she got sicker. I pretty much took care of her thru high school and until she passed. SHe lived with me and my husband until the end. I wouldn't leave her and he knew that if he wanted to be with me he had to except her. So her last ten months we all lived together. Luckily I moved my wedding date up a year so she could see us get married since I was the last to get married. I was only married almost two months when she passed and she told me she new he would take care of me and I would be okay with out her. And he has taken such good care of me. If she was here she would be proud of him. I do miss her every day especially now because I could really use her strength to get thru this mess. But know that your mom will be with you the rest of your life wether in just be in spirit now.

Yours truelly,

Pam