we have just found out my husband has mouth cancer,we are devastated going to hospital tomorrow(25th)to get the results of ct scan.all i want to do is cry all the time my husband is not saying much.

hi

you have come to the right place. it is an awful time for you both but you will find people here who have been through exactly the same and have got through the treatment and making progress. stay positive and keep us posted. where in your husband's mouth is the tumour?

gordon

Eviemac,

I have been in your husband's shoes all to recently. November 2008 to be exact. My husband didn't say anything, cried at first, but I tried to tell him it might be but he wouldn't listen. There are many people here who have been in your position and your husbands. I had squamous cell carcinoma of the tongue and one positive lymphnode in my neck. Surgery and radiation and here I am. I was given the clear end of April. Next Ct is in October. Feel free to ask any and as many questions that you may have.

Yours truely,

Pam C.

Hi Evie
well crying is ok for a little while,but you are going to have to dry your tears,pick yourself up and face the long hard journey you have in front of you.Wife/caregiver of someone with this disease takes strength,love,determination and sheer hard work.Its also the most important thing you will do for your other half and can make the difference between success and failure for him.you have the benfit here of several members of the "wifes club" and i aam sure you will find the help and support you will get invaluable.When you go to the hospital write everything they tell you down on a piece of paper.You can then prepare a list of questions you need to ask,and make sure you get them answered to your total satisfaction.Knowledge is power with this disease and you need to learn quick.

At this time you need to get him built up ready for what is coming,so makes sure he eats and eats as once things get going he will lose weight and probably have problems getting enough nourishment.
thats probably enough for now,but any questions you have just fire away.

good luck

Hi Evia, Sorry to hear of your husband situation.
I had mouth cancer too.
I remeber the week before I was told i was just numb really could not take it in so can understand what your husband feels like.
Try to take just one day at a time.
Please keep posting how you feel and whats happening with your and your husband, You will find lots of support on here form people who have been there and you can at least take comfort we are stil here.

Paul

Hi Eviemac, sorry to hear about your husband. Taking notes at the hospital is a good idea as once you've left you will probably forget most of the things you discussed with the dr.
As Paul says, try to take just one day at a time. If you think you need more help in the coming months then never be afraid to shout until someone hears you.
Stay positive if you can and never give up. Hagg.