Hello Moira,

Keep fighting the blues Moira, for you are entitled to be confused and hurt right now.

Back in '97 my wife and I enjoyed our Silver Wedding Anniversary on a cruise with Royal Carribean, (Granduer of the Seas) and don't know if that is your employer or one of the many other lines sailing out of Miami. We had an inside cabin, not rich you understand, and I can imagine that on duty you may never get to venture onto deck from the start to the end of a cruise.

Yes time dulls the pain but can never compensate the loss, but you are still young and have a life you deserve to live to the full, your husband and cousin will understand for their love wil always be around you, love can never die it is spiritual but our own love is not limited either and there is no shame in falling in love more than once. We were not created to be alone Moira and God will lead you to friends and love again as He has done in the past, the opportunity will present itself for you to be happy again without losing sight of the love for those who have gone before you and who are inevitably now part of you, they helped form who you are today and your new friends will understand that.

Take care and show me and your guests that wonderful smile which spreads happiness all around notwithstanding the clouds currently in your heart for they will surely just as night follows day; float quietly away.

keep in touch Alan

Hello Alan,

Yes Royal Carribean I know also, very nice. I work for Carnival currently out of Tampa. It has its good and bad points as any job I suppose. I think I am just a bit exhausted at the moment. Due to go home to Scotland soon.

Your kind words are very appreciated and bring a tear to my eye as they are very very thoughtful and caring.
Tomorrow will be the day of my cousins funeral it will be a sad day for all, though she has many many young friends and family to celebrate her life and her achievments with two beautiful girls.

thank you and take care also.

I will keep in touch Moira

Your are in especially my thoughts and prayers today Moira when you must work so remote from family and friends as they gather to remember and pay their respects to your cousin here in Scotland. Today is a day to mourn your immediate loss, tomorrow you and your family may begin to celebrate and give thanks for the gift of those lives you were priviliged to know and share in love and friendship but whom you have now lost: at least from this mortal world. I pray that you know the power of God's personal love and grace for you through the care and compassion of all your friends here, as well as your many colleagues and guests who surround you today. May you also find time for quiet mediation of all those you love Moira and may that period of private meditation provide you with peace of mind.

Fond regards, Alan

Moira,

You are such a wonderful lady whose postings on this site I have found to be full of compassion, wisdom, and insight. I am so thankful that you are here amongst us... a valuable member who shares personal experiences that are still raw and painful, to be of service and guidance to others, while healing yourself.

Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss you now suffer, this neice so young with such promise and dear children left behind to go on without her. And all this to endure so soon after your own husband's passing. I am just so sad to know about such tragedy in one family and my heart goes out to you, one and all, as you mourn the passing of this special young woman.

Moira, regardless of the fact that we have never "met" (in person), I care about you just as much and feel your pain today.

Alan's words are also a special comfort to all those of us who share in your grief, but cannot express it the way we could if only tangible hugs could be delivered across the miles. Consider yourself hugged this moment, Moira. During my quiet time with the Lord today, you, dear lady, will be remembered.

From my heart,

Your friend Melanie

Dear Melanie,

I feel hugged trully I do. Thank you. Sending one straight back to you also. There are so many fabulous people here thrown together due to many major life changing devastating situations.
I know it may sound strange but I trully feel honoured to be part of this group.
To be honest I was initially terrified of looking at this site again as it would ulitmately open many raw deep wounds only beginning to feel a little healing. The last few weeks have been especially difficult to have to deal with these horrific circumstances and at that time all I wanted was my beautiful husband/best friend by my side to help me deal with it, only to realize once more that he has also gone.

I have felt great support here with this group and is the most I have ever discussed with anyone how I trully feel and how difficult these last couple of years have been.I really have not had anyone to discuss my thoughts and feelings with..

You are a trully amazing woman also and very kind and considerate.
My family are in a state of shock and my mum told me today how she led my cousins little girl out of Church by the hand and how brave she was at only 9 young years..

I am going home and happy, 20 days left here and excited to be with friends and family from home

Thank you take great care

with love
Moira

Moira,

I am glad that you are coming home soon. Melanie has a way of touching our emotions that I think is unique but has a lot to do with being a woman, if you know what I mean.

There is no place like home as it is the one place in the world where you find all the love you need.

If you ever need to you may contact me on dancingwithroses@hotmail.co.uk; the world is a large to us but only a small globe in the universe yet this site makes a message only a second away.

And with Melanie I join you all in a group hug!

May we all know spiritual strength and peace as we journey along.

Luv, Alan

Thanks Alan,
Group hug accepted readily...
I will be home by July 28th. Plans are to go home for a little while, but promised my friend that I would join her in South Africa and then to Thailand. I am really looking forward to my vacation. I will be heading off to Canada in October before commencing on next contract in December, so its good to have a little plans.

you can also contact me anytime on moirar@hotmail.com
thanks for your address I will contact you.

time is moving fast and I feel so drained of energy its unbelievable... I have a big wedding of my dear friend that I used to work with in accident and emergency department at home. So I am really looking forward to that too. I think her hen night will be something that I will need lots of rest before attempting in Glasgow.

I hope you are well and happy.
thanks Alan you're the best.

Moira