Hi. I joined this website because my husband has got growths in his mouth. On Tuesday, 17 Oct, he had the largest of the number of growths removed for biopsy and we get the results on the 24 Oct. I am terrified. This waiting is driving me nuts. I'm trying to be strong for his sake, it's very difficult. I wish I hadn't even tried looking up cancer of the mouth and finding this website and reading all the horrible things that you guys have been through and what you are going through. I'm not even sure if he will fight for his life. I don't want to loose my soul mate. I don't want to raise our son on my own. Will our marriage hold up through this. Will he be able to cope mentally and physically. I'm too afraid to have this discussion with him.

Vanessa

Hello Vanessa I'm so sorry to read what your husband is going through just now and, of course, the trauma that you might have to face too. You don't yet know for sure the results of the biopsy but, in any event, keep positive! It's only right that you get as much information as you can on this subject (from reliable sources) and, yes, some of the stories on here can scare you (for want of a better expression!) But, the fact that we can share our experiences will tell you that we have all been through it - surgery/radio/chemo whatever and survived, and we have felt well enough to share it! We are all living life to our fullest potential, albeit a bit different!

We well know that dreadful time spent waiting for results. One minute you are going about your day-to-day life as normal and the next BAM! your lives are turned upside-down and, SHOULD the results mean your hubby needs radical treatment, you will not return to 'normal' for quite some time. That said, both of you will find whatever it takes to get you through this - it's amazing what strengths and qualities come to the fore at a time like this. The fact that you have tried to research the subject and are writing such heartfelt posts shows the love and desire you have to support your husband. As for your hubby - life is precious and fight he will!! There is a wealth of help and advice on here from lots of wonderful people, so ask anything that comes to mind.

We will all be rooting for you on Tuesday and, when you can, please let us know how your husband gets on. God bless Brenda

Hi vvanzl,

When my consultant gave me my diagnosis he recommended that I didn't do any research on the net about my cancer, until after I had had my first meeting with the multidisciplinary team at the hospital about my treatment. I don't think that this is advice that anybody can realisticaly be expected to follow. My husband and I spent the following week looking at everything we could find. A very down to earth site that explains everything in simple language is the cancer research information site http://www.cancerhelp.org.uk/ . But I don't believe that the info on which they have based their survival rates is up-to-date, as there are other sites showing much better prognosis. Obviously with all the recent advances in cancer treatment these figures need to be constantly re-assesed, and the five year survival rate is five years out of date.
I hope everything turns out for the best for your husband. Whichever way it turns out, he is very lucky to have a caring and supportive wife, and I am sure he will appreciate you for these qualities.

Hubby doesn't have cancer, what a relief. I would like to say thanks for all your kind words and support, it was a rough week of waiting and I appreciate your kindness during this time.

I wish you all the best and I won't be a stranger, will pop in on the site to make sure you are all doing ok.

Thanks again.

Vanessa

Fantastic! That's the best news you can get! Go and celebreate your new lease of life together - but pop in occasionally to say hello! Cheers! Brenda x