I dont really know were to start to be honest,I suppose from the begining.
My dad was told he had cancer of the throat and mouth late july,he only noticed the lump in his throat 2 weeks before he went to the doctors and got sent to the hospital almost straight away.When he seen the consultant he said that he was 100% certain that it was cancer without any tests being done,And he was right!!!
My dad had the major op (where the jaw had to be split and he was cut from one ear to the middle of his throat) also a track in his throat too.He has been sooooooooooo brave and i am so proud of him,He was having radio everyday and about three weeks ago noticed another lump in the same place,The doctors thought it was crystal's from the op but they were wrong,The cancer is back.The docter told my dad that he has NEVER known anyone to get over such a major op as quick as my dad but he has NEVER known the cancer to come back so soon either and so agressive,My poor dad is having to go the hospital every day for radio and every 2 weeks for chemo up until the 22 december.
I love him so much and i hate seeing him go through this but he is also so brave(dont think i would be)He is losing patches of his hair due to stress(not chemo it started before he had tha treatment)he is keeping it all to himself how he feels and know matter what you ask him he just says he is fine.
I read davids story and its true my dad doesnt sound the same anymore and i have to really listen to what he says cos there is NO way i will ever say to him "WHAT" he has been through enough without his nearest and dearest doing that.
Sorry to go on so much but it nice to talk to people who can understand.
Thanks for listening
Kerrie

Hello Kerrie

It sounds like you love your Dad a great deal.
Let's hope that the treatment your dad has will attack the cancer.

Re the hair loss. I lost some handfuls of hair but not a whole head of it about week 2, then that suddenly stopped. This is probably because some hair is near the ears and at the back of the neck is in what is called the field of treatment and with nutrition poor at the same time the hair gets a pasting.

My hair is thick now and I am still sprouting new hair so maybe his will come back too.

You know just having someone near is what you need at this time. Someone close who you can be yourself with and it seems like he has a great one in you.

welcome alsbaby. I can only second what Pauline has put so perfectly. Your father is so lucky to have you there and he sounds as if he deserves it. A nice man who is going through too mujch too soon.
He hardly had time to catch his breath before it was off again. With a bit of luck this might hopefully get rid of all the nasties. Any time you are in doubt about ANYTHING come here. There is always someone who can help.
Good work that girl! Ishbel

Hi Alsbaby

My husband is 34 and had the major op you descrived in February and radiotherapy throughout APril and May. His cancer came back at the end of June.

"The docter told my dad that he has NEVER known anyone to get over such a major op as quick as my dad but he has NEVER known the cancer to come back so soon either and so agressive"

This is pretty much what the Docs said to my husband.

He's now on his third lot of chemo drugs - so far they haven't worked for more than a few weeks at a time before the cancer become resistant though.

He too has lost most of his hair, but there are lots of icons out there with bald/skin heads - Yul Brynner, David Beckham, even Brad Pitt has been known to go very short!! (OK, so David Beckham might be taking the 'icon' description a bit too far!)

I am sure that you are making your father feel better by being strong. I hope that I am making things a bit easier for my husband.

Feel free to ask any quetsions.

spouse

Hiya all and thankyou VERY MUCH for your replies,
My dad went for yet another bout of radio today and had to talk to the doctors,Even the man who drives the bus to the hospital commented much treatment he is getting and he sees it all doesnt he.
My dad is losing his hair due to stress i think cos he had a little bald patch before his chemo and it was getting worse cos he wont speak to anyone about his illness(doesnt want to worry us)but to be honest its like being in limbo not knowing whats going on cos he goes to the hospital on his own and we dont get to know what the doc's said.
He is off to get more chemo on friday till tuesday and then he has another session that finishes on the 22nd of dec.
Mum had a bit of a bad day today cos she keeps thinking that dad will come back and say they are finishing his treatment sooner and there is no more that they can do(natural i suppose she is so scared,like we all are)
I would just like to thank you all again for replying to my post as i dont feel so alone.
Thankyou
Kerrie

HI Newbie, It is so sad to read your posting
we have all been there in someway or another
I hope you can take one day at a time (I cannot) and help your Dad through this.
I do know also it is very tough on you
I send all my best and please keep us posted

Paul

Hi all,
I hope you are all feeling as well in yourselves as is possible.I am very grateful to everyone who replied to my post.
Paul i wish you all the luck in the world and your a really brave man.
i read your story and i found that you have been through so much and i think your an inspiration.I have not had time to read alot of the stories(but i will)and it was your story that brought me to this board(I thank you for that)Please keep your chin up,I only have to look at my dad to know that its easier said than done though.
Just remember this,YOU and everyone else on this board are a lifeline to people like me.
I went to see my dad today he went in yesterday and he seems to be keeping a brave face on it,he was chatting away but i think a few times he felt alittle sick,He has to have his chemo and radio together while he is in hospital.His face looks really sore now and behind his ear has started to crack and bleed(yet never a complaint comes past his lips but thats my dad for ya!!)He has a double radio on tuesday before he comes home and then back everyday until he is took in again for his 3rd lot of chemo in december.
It will be good to have him home next week.
Keep your chin up everyone and thanks again.
Love Kerrie