Dear Dee, I am so sorry to hear that your dad lost his battle with cancer and I am sure everyone on this site will join me in sending sincere sympathies to you and your family. You have certainly been a devoted daughter during this very difficult time. You have been by your dad's side when he needed you most and given him all the love and support possible.

Well done to you for getting into fundraising so soon but remember to give yourself time to grieve and come to terms with all that you have been through. With love and very best wishes. Brenda

thanks for your kind words brenda they mean a lot to me i have just had a weeknd away at friends in birmingham to get away from everything here it was really good i took my two daughters with me also we had a lovely time and was nice to switch of and try and be normal again.
Although have come back to hear some really bad news my friend who lives 50miles from me has just been told she has squamous cancer in her bowel its very aggressive shes only 32 is married with four children and its devastating shes incurable so trying to take that in tonight .
thank you once again for all your lovely kind thoughts and i am here too for anyone who needs any advise
deexxxx

Dear Dee
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your father.. may his soul rest in peace.. and try to keep remembering all the good things that you shared with him.

if you remember me.. I'm the one who lost my husband for tongue cancer. He fought it very courageously for 2 years.

I also would like to take this opportunity to tell everybody how much I wish my husband would have discovered this website when he was first diagnosed with cancer. Unfortunately, we learned about this group about a couple of months before my husband died. This is a wonderful group of supportive people.

Mary

i certainly do remember you yes , thank you so much for your words of condolence. i found the site whilst my dad had just been diagnosed which was a great help to me , unfortunately mydads illness was very quick and he did not last very long which in one sense is good because eased his suffering but also made us very sad we did not have much time with him in the end . once again id like to take this opertunity to say thank you for everyones support and id also like to help anyone who has any questions too deexx

Dee, I am so so sorry to hear about the passing of your Father. This is such a sad time to hear that a dear friend of yours has also been diagnosed with Cancer as well. Let me tell you this, it is everywhere or so it seems to be. I lost my Moma to CANCER at the age of 42. She also had 4 children left behind. I thought at that time that I wouldn't ever be able to breathe again without that pressure on my chest, you know what I am talking about. Right? It feels like a truck has landed on your chest. My heart is aching for you because I know the pain that a death of a parent can bring. I have lost both of my parents one right after the other. Both of them about did me in. Remember this, you are your Father's daughter. He is still living in you. You live the life that was so tragicly taken from him. Finish what he started. Do the things that you two talked about doing, for I truely believe that they are watching over us. That may sound silly, but I do. You will be sad for some time, but there will come a day when you can smile and laugh at the things that you and he have done together.. Time heals all pain..Bless you and your family...Vicki Lynn

thank you vikki i know o the pain you talk about i also lost my sister 9 years ago and hse left two children behind her daughter who i took in FOR a year whilst she had no place to live her mam died when she was 15 and she lost her lat aged 19 so she stayed with me and my girls i know o the heartache of losing your mum through her and her brother, your right about time the pain does ease some days more than others , but never leaves completely and also the memories grow stronger and you learn to accept what has happened and move on , its just the sdness at the beginning that hurts so much. one good thing is my neice had a son and is now 24 , 25 in sept she will marry in june and my daughters are bridesmaids we have always been close but now even closer i have been like a mam and a riend to her and her life has turned out fine . my rind who is dying has 4 children fromthe age of 5 -14 so it is very dificult , or her husband to cope but they are dealing with it the best they can and it is good that i have had the experience with cancer at least now i can help more as i know what i am dealing with
hope you stay strong and i am here always or a chat
deexx

Hi All,
I'm very sorry to hear that a lot of you have lost loved ones through cancer, this is my second visit to the site (I had tongue cancer and finished the treatment June last year as I mentioned when I first came on).
I would like to tell any new people who are experiencing this awful desease that all is not lost, it's over 1 year now since i was diadgnosed and i'm thriving now. Back to work, going on holidays and enjoying life again. so don't give up hope and keep pushing forward.
Steve

thanks steve its lovely to also hear os a success story too im so pleased you are well and im sure your family will be so relieved now.its been a very quick but tough time for me lately but you have to take one day at a time the good days with the bad and still come through it smiling because we know thats what are lost ones would want . my hope goes to you for your continued good health
love deex

Thanx Dee for you reply, I am trying to show some of us lucky ones that there is light at the end of the long tunnel and to keep pushing yourself to the end with the support of family and friends.
love to you all,

Steve G