Mike
I dont know if this is the correct way to do it but to send a private message click on the persons name then public profile and down the bottom it says send a private message to, and click on that. Hope this helps.
Take a photo of Lock Eck and put it on your profile it sounds great!!

Hi Mike
i answered your Pm before i read your last post where i see you have answered the questions i asked lol.I was a nurse and of course i picked up on every whisper every look and i knew what every test and result meant,but i actually found the knowledge very enabelling until the news got bad and then at times i wished i knew nothing.This forum has lots of couples who are members,and the wives club is very active,so tell your wife to join us,she will get lots of emotional support from the girls here.

Hi Mike,
Just to let you know I had to wait to wait 3 months to start my radio/chemo therapy following my surgery. Apparently it was the extent of my surgery that caused the delay and I know this is a very harrowing wait. Like you, I was diagnosed when I was 49 and I actually spent my 50th birthday having my chemo and radio therapy and as I was unable to eat or drink anything at all, my 'celebrations' consisted of administering milkshake and morphine into my feeding peg! Unfortunately, this was how I 'celebrated' Christmas that year too!! I have to say though that I decided to lose that year and was '50' again last year - and believe me, I well and truly made up for the lack of celebration the year before. Feel free to pm me if you want to ask any questions - I will answer as honestly as I can. Good luck with everything.
Dian

Having some knowlege I find is not allways a good thing. When hospital staff find out I was nurse and mywife is too they seem to assume we must know all obout cancer.Found out the cancer was not caused by the HP virus as they all thought, it doesnt change the treatment just lowers the odds a little.
My treatment has been brought forward to the 8th march. The addrenal started to pump just after the call bringing it forward. I know feel i am in the space shuttle about to blast off and I cant get off!

The only thing good about being a nurse was that i understood the technical terms they came out with lol.I only saw one oral cancer case in 30 years ,and that was 2 days after i qualified.The lady in question had had surgery and been fitted with the most unsightly obturator i had ever seen made from dentists porcelain.Thak god things have moved on since then.
I think where i found it helpful ,was knowing the right questions to ask and not being afraid to badger doctors,nutritionists,pharmacists etc for all the information i could get to make looking after Rob easier.For me Mike knowledge was power, and made me a better advocate for my husband who gladly handed the guiding reins to me during his treatment,letting him concentrate on the business of just coping with the crap he had to face every day.Have you had your mask fitting done yet?