Hi I am new to the site and not that good with navigating my way around so hopefully in the right part. My husband was diagnosed with cancer to the base of his tongue, he had an op and they took out 34 lymph nodes, 2 of which were cancerous. He was in hospital for a week, home for 2 nights and back in hospital with a very nasty infection where he stayed for a further week. He is now due to start week 5 of his radiotherapy and chemo treatment. He is not doing too badly, he is desperate not to use his PEG and is eating fortiscreams like they are going out of fashion, he is also forcing himself to eat pasta/pancakes and other soft foods. His energy levels have been very low this weekend and he has had a bout of the runs. It is so hard seeing someone you love go through all of this and not being able to do much to help. He gets angry with me when I ask if he is ok. Oh he has just given in and put a fortisip in using his PEG. Times are tough and stress levels high but tow weeks to go and hopefully some good news.

Welcome to the club no one wants to be a member of but glad you found this place. It is an amazing resource!! My father also had base of the tongue cancer and had now been in remmission for a few years. The road was not easy at times but possible. I am going to PM you some information you might find helpful. Hard not to ask if he is OK but guess what? He isn't. Try to just smile and be there.

Hi Chezza
I went through the sam procedure as your husband in 2004 and, I'm ashamed to say, I also got angry and snappy if my partner asked if I was OK. Maybe if you asked if he is in pain or if he feels better/worse than yesterday? I now realise how selfish I was, I was so focussed on my pain I didn't consider what my partner was going through. My only advice to you is to sound off too a friend (or this forum) sometimes. I hope all goes well for you both.
Sheila

do you know what his TNM is? just curious M