I have decided to erase all my "saying" or Ananthisms. I feel its time to take on the world alone as I have always done and who knows what the oucome may turn out to be!If you do want to contact me do so at my email id -ananthshenoy@email.com.
Ananth

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Well Ananth I could not possibly let this post go unanswered and I do so this time publically.

Your philosophy is good, yes in parts we diverge most particularly where winning is all, winning or as I would express it achieving one's ambistions is important, it is necessary for our self esteem, and we can do good or evil in the process: it is our choice for the most part but we can certainly hurt and deeply and eternally without in any sense having evil intent!

I am glad we have met albeit at arms length my friend, I can live with your bragging for in your case your achievements have been earned for the most part absent of malice and I congratualte you for your energy, intellect and industry.

You take with you only your deeds toward whatever the next dimension of our spiritual life is. However you can aquit yourself before any future measure of good very well in your deeds.

With respect to marriage and whether or not given our life over again to repeat the commitment and with whom? Well I have learned that we can try to make whatever we decide to do whethre initiually wise or unwise -successful - but I would if given the chance again be very much more particular about letting those I love know that I love them and why I do so.

Regrets one cannot live without racking up a tidy score of regrets for we all make mistakes and continue to do so each time we are faced with new situations from which we have to make decisions on a wing and a prayer, making a mistake is not the sin, hurting in the process is not a sin: not making the decision is the sin!!!!!!!!!!

Dying without fear is the last achievement for which we should all strive, without that is fear of the unknown. Fear of God is a healthy and humbling preoccupation, not in the sense of being condemned to hell, but of being comfortable to be judged justly, knowing that whatever our penance or prize we have no one to blame other than ourselves. If we can all face our respective spiritual Deities sure and certain that we shall be justly dealt with, then we can face death the gateway to the unknown without fear! In my own case Ananth the worst fate would be that my spirit as well as my body is condemned to die at the end of this mortal existence.

Take care my friend do what you must, be true to your spirit and be well remembered, I shall so remember you! Alan (a fond male hug)

"Life is what we live it - no one can live it for us!"

Ananth,

If my Sons can feel that I have given them the principles to follow that you know your Dad gave you I will die a very proud man! We do not often tell those we love how much we respect them as well as love them, I was fortunate to be able to find the words to tell my Father after we buried my Mother, I did not want him to go without that special knowledge as my Mother did!

Alan ((o))

Hi immortal one.I have kept out of this thread for fear i will put my yorkshire size 12's in the messy stuff,but i thought what the hell i am going to say it any way.

In England we have a phrase "sir thou dost protest to much"and i have to say that your posts over the last couple of days smack of too much protesting. You didnt reply to my last e-mail on this very subject (your demise)and i am going to take the bull by the horns and say this Ananth.
Death is something we all face eventually,it is the one given in life we cannot avoid.On this forum every person here has had to face the devil and look him right between the eyes,some people have been lucky and kicked his arse back to hell,some people have been to hell and come back,and some people have taken a beating from him they just cant recover from .The one thing we all have in common when faced with this stuff is FEAR,and the one thing i would like to say to you is THAT IS OK.Its not weakness,its not cowardice its not an admission of failure,its downright normal,and puts you on a par with everyone else.Real bravery doesn't come from words,it comes from actions, showing your feelings when faced with your own mortality is the right and normal thing to do,admitting it is even better,because when you say the words out loud it helps accept the reality.
Sod the macho man routine ,a little emotion and weakness puts you right in there with the rest of us,and why should you be different?

My husband was the bravest and strongest person i have ever known when his time came,but the weeks before that were the ones that cemented our previously volatile relationship.His vulnerability and fear opened up a new depth and tenderness to our love that i never thought possible,and those precious moments keep his memory so so special.If he had continued with his rough tough guy ways i dont know how i would feel now.

We all need to feel needed and i felt priveledged to be sharing the unique experience of his journey towards lifes end and the release from suffering that became unimmaginable.
Time to come down from your ivory tower Ananth darling,because when push comes to shove and the chips are down ,we were all created equal and we all leave this life equal,so why not let us in and let us share a bit of the real Ananth.

There is absolutely no malice intended in this post you know i love you dearly warts and all,and at the end of the day you must do things your way as you always have.All i am saying is that it is ok to show emotion,and it is ok to be a little scared there is no shame in that.

love you as always

liz

Avoiding the point again?

You are right Ananth,i think language must be the problem .I cant think of any other reason why you would reply in such an unpleasant fashion,but i am not hanging around to find out.

Firstly Ananth it is for me to apologise for using local idiom and coloqiolisms.Your grasp of english is so good that i tend to forget and write as i speak.The reference to size twelves means i didnt want to tread on delicate ground re the subject matter of my post.The protesting to much referred to wether or not you are really as prepared as you say for the future.
In england it is thought if you keep on saying something over and over it is because you are trying to convince yourself as well as others.The only important part of the message is what i have pasted below particularly the bit in bold.

Death is something we all face eventually,it is the one given in life we cannot avoid.On this forum every person here has had to face the devil and look him right between the eyes,some people have been lucky and kicked his arse back to hell,some people have been to hell and come back,and some people have taken a beating from him they just cant recover from .The one thing we all have in common when faced with this stuff is FEAR,and the one thing i would like to say to you is THAT IS OK.Its not weakness,its not cowardice its not an admission of failure,its downright normal,and puts you on a par with everyone else.Real bravery doesn't come from words,it comes from actions, showing your feelings when faced with your own mortality is the right and normal thing to do,admitting it is even better,because when you say the words out loud it helps accept the reality.
Sod the macho man routine ,a little emotion and weakness puts you right in there with the rest of us,and why should you be different?


Time to come down from your ivory tower Ananth darling,because when push comes to shove and the chips are down ,we were all created equal and we all leave this life equal,so why not let us in and let us share a bit of the real Ananth.


Nothing there to get annoyed about is there? Just a request to open your true heart and let us see what is really going on in that very mixed up head of yours about the here and now not the past.Who knows talking may help.

much love liz

Hi Ananth
Haven't been online for some time and am reading through the newer posts. I'm not even going to read your entry above this one of mine ~ there's just waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy too much to read and it's long past my sensible bed time. However I am prompted to comment on one sentence in your second last post. "Even though I have put everything down in writing, I want to be totally sure that everything for them to lead a happy life is followed as per my instructions, which I hope they do as I won't be around to correct any mistakes".
The last 8 words should tell you something. If your family or loved ones choose not to follow your instructions after your death, guess what? There is absolutely NOTHING you can do about it. If you are confident you have taught them all they need to know, have left them everything you want to and all of your/their affairs are in order, then that's all you can do. Now relax and enjoy your remaining time with everyone that matters. Que sera, sera. You won't change anything now and wherever you go to after this life, I'm sure you'll be worrying about kicking butt there and this life will be gone from your mind.
Love
Deborah