* Because it may take my husband of 2 years away from me.
* Because it may ruin our plans for a long happy life together.
* Because it may ruin our plans for having our own family.
* Because it causes hurt and pain to everyone.
* Because it may stop my husband doing the job he loves and is very good at.
* Because, even if we fight it this (second) time around, there may yet be a third time.
* Because it was not in my life plan to be a widow at 30.
* Because our lives will never be the same again.
* Because my husband will either always be looked at as a cancer survivor, or I will always be looked at as a young widow. We will never be just 'us' again.
* Because up till now I have led a happy (some may call easy) life and it was all set to continue. And now we have to face this ******* disease.

Hi Spouse

Howya doing?

Your husbands chemotherapy should have finished a couple of weeks ago. I hope the side effects weren't too bad.

A neighbour of mine was recently having chemo for a body cancer, and he was knocking on my door because of the pain in his tongue - a sample of Gelclair I had was of help until he could get his GP to prescribe some. He also said the chem made him very tired, he also lost some hair. But he is much better now and was gardening today!

If there is anthing I can do to help, please yell!

Best wishes
Vinod :coffee:

Amen to you Spouse...I agree 100000000% with every single thing you have just said. I hate CANCER:
Because at 26 it took my precious Mother.
Because at 32 it changed my life forever.
Because at 42, my 10 year mark, HELLO again.
Because at 45 it visited me one more time.
Because I have lived my life in fear for over 20 years.
Because more than half of my life has been in pain.
Because it will not STOP until it kills me.
Because I, Vicki, never really knew that life could, would or should ever be this hard to live. A life: One without pain. One without fear. One without worries. One without tears.
Because I am ME, Vicki, and a wife, daughter, mother, grandmother, sister and a friend.
I hate CANCER. I hate CANCER. I hate CANCER.
Vicki Lynn

Well I have had Cancer 3 years nearly it seems more like 20 :banghead:
I am 45 looking good for 65 :banghead:
Lost count of Biopsies :banghead:

Rest my case

Paul

from Update on Upton's cancer

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I've spent a lot of time thinking about the pros and cons of having cancer. Obviously, there are a lot of cons. Surgeries, nausea, needle sticks, tape pulling out hair, radiation, chemotherapy, pain, expense, inconvenience, uncertainty, etc. etc. However, being an optimist, I've been trying to focus on the positive side. Therefore, I've put together my top ten list of "good" things about having cancer:
Really great drugs
Getting lots of sleep
Some cute nurses laying on the hands
Lots of free beers from friends hoping you'll remember them in your Will
No more University committees for a while
Physicians tell you to eat as much and whatever you like
Nearly all women start looking attractive
Everyone feels sorry for you and acts really nice
No cost extensions easily obtained for all of my grants
You find out how good your medical insurance really is

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from Katherine's Story: tongue cancer

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So I feel when I look back on this whole experience I feel like the cancer has really been a blessing. It's spurred me to make some very positive changes in my life and in my attitude toward things. I feel happier now than I've ever been in my entire life, and I feel that it's very important for everyone to live each day to the fullest and try to just make sure I try to enjoy every moment of every day. I try not to allow myself to get stressed out about stupid little things. If I'm caught in a traffic jam instead of getting all upset about it, I try to find something on the radio to listen to or something like that, or pop in a tape that is interesting. Just so I feel like I'm enjoying my time rather than sitting there fuming about why isn't the traffic moving. Performing, I've come to try to accept the fact that I'm not perfect, and that I'm never gonna be perfect and that just because I screw something up, it doesn't mean it can't still be a good performance. And hopefully I'll bring joy to someone who's listening to it.

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I think that Katherine thinks like me, look at cancer on how you can change or life. None of us know what is going to happen next week. When I was really ill a girlfriend came from Vancouver to look after me, she felt very tired, when she got home she was rushed to the hospital for open heart surgery, my very best friend who is american and lives nr Paris ( she is mega well off and sent me her credit card no so I could buy anything I needed ) had a stroke 3 months ago and can only open one eye and move one hand and is doubly inc' my boy friend who lives in Austria has just had a blood clot in the lung followed by aheart attack, so we do not know what is out there.All these books on fighting cancer pxxx me off; read THE HEALING POWER OF ILLNESS BY THORWALD DETHLEFSEN AND RUDIGER DAHLKE, THIS HAS HELPED ME ; finding out about myself. work with things don't fight it Anger is because you are frightened, it uses up your energy, you will need to conserve energy to be a support for your loved one. Pray that the Divine Spirit will be there for you both.

Just be positive.... What Cancer can do?

Print this and read it aloud daily, because it will come true!


* Because it will bring us closer, than ever before, with each other together !

* Because it will make our plans for a long happy life together, easier and possible.

* Because it will give me all the reasons to have our own family.

* Because it makes us aware of what is important and for everyone who walks this road with us.

* Because it will only make what I do more important and I will be better at what I do.

* Because, although the (second) time around, the monster is finished and will never return.

* Because it is my life plan to start a full and perfect life 30, with my partner and together we will.

* Because our lives will never be the same again, our lifes will only be better and better.

* Because my husband will be looked at as a survivor, a hero for winning this WAR, and I will be at his side as his #1 admirer as both of 'us' survived this together.

* Because up till now I have led a happy (some may call easy) life and it was distined to continue another 55 years at least, without wasting a second time on a negative thought.

A VERY BIG BRAVO AND ENCORE ENCORE, CHRISTOPHER THANK YOU FOR THE POSITIVE IMPUT.
aLL MEN'S MISERIES DERIVE FROM NOT BEING ABLE TO SIT QUIET IN A ROOM ALONE Blaise Pascal 1623-62