for the patient to be somewhat nasty.. I am just asking since my dad is being that way towards my mom.. We get the feeling that he blames her or maybe he regrets getting the surgery.. I hate to see my dad in pain and hate it more to see my Mom upset

When in pain it's difficult to stay happy and focused on life, and sometimes you hurt the ones you love. Don't blame your Dad. He's afraid and angry over what he's going through.

thank you..

Hello eyecandy

Loved ones can be rude to their carers. This topic of how to cope with the rudeness has come up before, so we have some 'experienced' members about! You may find Pikeman's and Jenbee's advice helpful.

Best wishes
Vinod

Hi, I agree with Steve, your dad is scared and we tend to turn our anger on the people we love most when we are not sure of the future. Time is the only healer in this case, so be patient, i'm sure your dad does not mean to be nasty.

On a lighter note, I had my first accupuncture treatment yesterday. This clinic has been going for 2 years and have had a remarkable 80% success rate so far. A surgeon at Torbay Hospital first saw this treatment in California where they have been conducting it for a number of years, also with very high success rate. If i am fortunate enough to be one of the 80% i can expect improvement in the next 3 to 4 weeks.
I will keep you informed of my progress. I remain very upbeat.

Regards, Bill

thank you for your thoughts.. now does insurance cover that or is that out of pocket.. that would be great.. please again keep me posted

Hi, here in England we have the National Health Service, so in my case the treatment is free. I doubt that your insurance would cover it, as accupuncture is not a scientifically proved form of medical treatment.

yeah true since healthcare is nothing compared to over in Europe//...

Bill,

So you are trying accupuncture, why not! You say you hope it is successful. Do you mean successful in combatting any return of cancer or the effects of the treatments you received.....or indeed any other reason?

I note that your children are doctors, so I guess they raised no objections. Good luck.

Regards

Hi Fridge, the accupuncture treatment is strictly for the saliva glans. The belief is that the treatment can induce the saliva glans to work again after radiotherapy treatment. As you may be aware the radiotherapy damages the saliva glans any create the problem of dry mouth. My daughter was responsiblke for getting me on the schemeas she works in the same hospital as the ENT surgeon who is carryin gout the accupuncture. I have had 2 treatments so for and remain upbeat about the results!!!!

Dear Bill, The Acupuncture treatment sounds interesting. Are the needles placed around the neck & what is the logic behind this treatment?.

Hi Fran, There are 8 needles in all. Three on each ear and one on each index fingure. They are placed at specific points which are deemed to stem from or to the saliva glans. the practice is not scientifically proven as this would entail carrying out dummy runs with patients, i.e. the placibo system used in heart monitoring. the difficulty is for the practitioner treating cancer patients with placibo typetreatment would be unfair. the results of the program i am on have been 80% success rate in regenerating the saliva glans. You might say one has to believe in the treatment. I most certainly do!

Hi Bill,

How very interesting that an accupuncture course may restore saliva. Your results will be of interest to many of us on this forum.

It may be that accupuncture, like many other treatments, affects individuals differently but I would very much like to hear how it goes.

I do hope it is a success. Please keep us posted. Regards,