Trev knows how lucky he is to have you, Deborah, by his side who has done everything possible to assist him during these sad times. We all appreciate both you Trev and thank both of you for the frequent posts and updates during the last couple of years.

It has been fantastic to read about trips, outings, etc. which you have planned for Trev. And like Mimi said there are dozens of silent followers of our threads.... right now at 12:45 am there are 51 folks signed in. only 5 are members.

I hope others are able to take some of your ideas to assist their loved ones who are no longer able to care for themselves.

Words are inadequate.

Lots of love to you both.

Cathy

Hello Deborah

Please say 'Hi' to Trev from me.

Best wishes
Vinod

Still thinking of you both Debs & Trev

Love
Mum
xxx

Haven't been registered on this site long but have been following your thread, and log in every day.

What an inspirational man Trev is.

Best Wishes to you both

Sue x

my dear deb
this is heartbreaking to hear trev is so ill now,my thoughts are with you both and your lovely family,i wish for a peaceful time for trev who is a fantastic man with a great personality and wonderful sense of humour,that he deserves to be in no pain,this is a terrible disease and it's not fair that a lovely couple as you two should go through all this crap.although i am far away you are always in my thoughts and prayers.with much love shirl xxx

Words just aren't enough... It's cruel and unfair that the law forces people to suffer and endure such unbearable conditions.
& that your hands are tied to help them.

My thoughts are with you both, and your family.
x

Hello Everyone
Just a quickie (I think)
I've just been having a big blub so am now sitting under the lights in the dining room to dry my tears so I can go to bed! Plus Peta feels sorry for me and is making me a milo with marshmallows (the blub was worth it).
Today we have had a very subdued Trevor. I guess it's a combo of the drugs he has on board (is basically having the meds he was having before Thurs plus the fentanyl patch and anti nausea/anxiety medication in the pump) and the progress (silly word) of the disease that had him out like a light for the day. He stirred a bit this evening and even asked if he could have something to eat. We got him out of bed and sat at the table with some lovely dinner we were about to eat and there he sat. He didn't touch a crumb of it. No amount of encouragement (although I really don't want him eating ~ why prolong anything)couldn't get him to do anything more than shake his fork.
If he speaks, he is basically incoherent and then gets restless and can't/doesn't know what he wants/needs. How frustrating must that be if he is still in there somewhere and trying to get out to us?
After quite a while of trying to get him to lie down instead of sitting on the bed tonight, with absolutely no joy, out of the blue he gave me one of his gorgeous Trevor smiles and a kiss. Little wonder a person dissolves into tears!!!!
Do I ever stop saying 'thank you' to you lot? I think not and mean it sincerely every time I write it. If there is any justice/fairness/whatever in this world, surely this hell will be over for my lovely, loving husband before too much longer.
It's great to hear from everyone but just terrific Chelle to know you're still hanging around the place.
Love to you all
Deborah

x

don't know what to say Deb, just to let you know we're all thinking of you, hang on in there and know you're doing the best you can for Trev, I went through this 4 years ago and it's hell

can't write much can only send a huge amount of love to you both xx

Love and my thoughts to you both.

Thank you both for all the help and encouragement over the past few months.

Ken

Dear Debs and Trev,

Your posts make me remember my Dad's final days battling with this bastard disease and Chelle's post sums up my thoughts brilliantly.

Thinking of you both often.

Love

Cathy

My brother passed away almost one year ago (May 22nd) and I have been an emotional wreck trying to deal with that reality. I am sitting in my classroom grading some tests and can not stop wondering how Trevor was doing. I often return to my posts and messages he sent me to give me some comfort and courage. He made me feel so much better (as many on this site have done) and I want to give him some love back. Could you please whisper to him that he made a tremendous impact on me with his kind words and thoughts and I will never forget him. Thank you Deb for taking such great care of my friend.

Noemi

Dearest Deb's was so pleaed to see your post. I think a good blub does you good and releases some of the pent up emotions especially when you get that wee smile and a kiss .You are being an amazing tower of strength for that wonderful husband of yours and we all miss his posts and stories so much .

This hellish disease is a penance no human being should have to tolerate at this stage and being at home with his loved ones and familiar surroundings is a comfort for Trev in itself .

Keep strong Deb's we are all here for you both alway's .

Love and warm hugs ,

Bell and Paul

Deborah

Trev has been an inspiration to us all for so long (as have you, of course). I do hope he finds some ease soon.

Just to let you know I am thinking of you both.

Love
Gwyn