hi jane had trouble just before xmas, which she put down to the usual worn out, a bit run down etc.
Well we ended up in Halifax hospital with the 1st thoughts from a very helpful doctor she had a Quincy on her tonsil,
After prodding and re examining the doctor decided to remove her tonsil.
Happy days...
She got a call saying they wanted to see her about the results of the tonsil
They had had sent for analysis
To be honest neither of us thought anything of it.
From seeing the doctor that day our lives have been turned upside down.
It’s like nah this only happen to other people,
But its here right on our toes and the emotion are starting to flood.
between us we have 4 beautiful daughters aged from 7 to 21 years old the older 2 are janes and the young ones mine (not living with us) and an adorable grandchild (almost one no that light s up our life
Jane s been diagnosed with Malignant Melanoma of the throat.
she ll be having major surgery(8/10HRS) in a week to 10 days.
she s 41 and I m 38
we ve been together for almost 8 years
and boy did we go through the mill to get this far.
we re all obviously gutted but know this operation has to be done or death is a certainty.
From what we ve been told it’s as big as it get s operation wise and we re all to be frank shitting ourselves.
How did you all cope and come to terms with your illnesses?
Inside I want to curl up and die. But I know I have to be strong for everyone, especially for jams girls they dote on her,
she is the backbone of our little crew and we all love her with all our hearts.
such an angel of warmth and devotion to the ones she loves.
The outcome of the next few weeks are in the hands of him above and the operating staff who have been great.
My babies only little and a strong gust of wind would blow her over.
But she’s a fighter and she s tough.
COME ON MY ICKLE GRUNTYPOOS.
YOUR MY LADY AND IVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER THAN WHEN IM WITH YOU
WERE ROOTING FOR YOU SWEATHEART.

thanks everyone
ive finished my rambling now.
goodluck to u all
cheers tweet (anthony)

Hi Anthony

Sometimes, it's just as hard for the partner as it is for the patient and the best thing you can do for Jane is exactly what you are doing - supporting her and making her realise that all she has to worry about is getting through the operation and the healing process. Having a positive attitude helps loads too. She won't be the first person to go through the process and you must have faith in the professionals that are dealing with the prolem.

On a lighter note, maybe she would appreciate it more if you called her "Sweetheart" instead of "Sweatheart" - the former sounds SO much better

Anyway - welcome to the forum and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both for the coming period

Cheers - Pete

Anthony

My thoughts are with your partner ,you and your family.I hope some inspiration can be gained from people's experiences on this board.

All the best

Good Morning Anthony,
As the crow flies there is perhaps three and a half miles separating your dwelling and mine.I am in Kirklees so my "local"oncology clinic is Pinderfields,the buildings are as bad as they get but the staff are as good as they get. Calderdale has an excellent record (and a new hospital)
I said recently that when you look back on this sort of problem the worst part is the moment when the person in the white coat says "come in, sit down, you have cancer".Up to this point you don't know what it is like to be struck by lightening but now you have a pretty good idea. I will not pretend that the treatment is good fun, it isn't, but it is not as bad as your imagination would have you believe.Pete mentioned a positive attitude and he is so right,it is a very important part of the healing process.Most people on this website are cancer patients,or carers, who have been through the mill, I think you will agree that a positive attitude runs through the whole site.
Don't be afraid to ask for help,Anthony,there are a lot of people who are dedicated to giving what help they can, your GP,staff at the oncology centre,Macmillan nurse,the people on this website.This latter group know only too well the anxieties which come with this problem and we would dearly like to spare Jane and yourself what we can.
Please keep us posted
Keep Smiling
John

Well What more to say Anthony, my heart goes out to you, Jane and the children. Not pleasant treatment but in many cases recoverable but Jane will never be the same, the family will learn to cope.

I am a man of Faith and found my Faith a rock on which to to build my confidence that the future would be taken care of. I had cancer in the larynx and surgical intervention resulted in a permanent hole in my neck through which I breathe and I communicate using speech originating in from my oesophagus (food pipe).

I consider myself fortunate it was caught relatively early and I was operated on in 1995 and given the "all clear" as far as that is a comfort in 2000. I still work and earn a living, but many cannot.

Being positive is important but it is also a gift, one which from your posting I think Jane has and that positiveness has to be encouraged and reciprocated. We all are at some point in our lives faced with our mortality Jane however is young but that is again to be seen as a positive attribute.

I pray that Jane's treatment will be successful as mine was, and that the consequences are bearable as mine were. IN any event I pray that you all as a family are given the strehgth to support each other over the next few weeks and months and years.

May you know God's blessing and grace as you face the future with trepidation and hurt and may Jane especially be comforted with the family's love and understanding so that she remains what she always was a mother, lover and friend and never treated as a victim!

DWR

thanks everyone
we have been encouraged by your words
wiil try to keep you all informed as it goes
lol thanks for the spelling correction Phinsing it never was my best subject
i think though the only way is to try be as normal as we can
which is going to be hard lol
my family s one to be seen, but i love em all
cheers everyone
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