hi
i am sorry i have not been around lately but some of you kindly replied to my post as i was having trouble getting help as we suspected my mum had mouth cancer but we were fight her go and get it seen to i have just come back from the hospital my mum was taken in last tuesday they did a byopsy on thursday the doctor called us to the hospital at 4pm today and confirmed what we suspected it is cancer she has decied to let them operate but she is too weak right now and they are building her up as to do it now with the way she is she would not servive the op
thank you all for you replies i printed them off and gave them too her i thin it helped i know she is scared i am too but i have to be strong for her if it is ok i will let you know how it goes
liz

Hi Liz

Sorry to hear that your mum's ulcer turned out to be a cancer. It would have been better if she could have been persuaded to get it seen to earlier, but better late than never.

So focus your energies now on what can, and needs to be done. Tell her not to blame herself for not listening to you earlier, etc. Each cancer is different and if good luck favours her, all will be well notwithstanding the delay! Your mum will need your family's strength and encouragement during this difficult time. We will all be here to listen and help in any way we can. Thanks for letting us know.

Best wishes
Vinod :coffee:

Liz, we are all sorry to hear this dreadful news. Try not to worry about what you haven't done and focus on all that you have or must do. Be there for her no matter what. Hold her hand, wipe her tears, or left her wipe yours. Try to find all the answers to all her questions. We will pray for your family. You are in our hearts, or thoughts and always our prayers. Vicki

thank you all mum has now had her op it was done on tuesday they took muscle from the back of her leg and sewed it into her mouth to keep it alive she will then go down to theatre agagain where they will stitch it into the whole under her tounge she is attached to alsorts of tubes she has a pipe in her throat which the will remove once all the swelling goes down she will then look like my mum again it is going to take a long time but it will be wrth it to get my mum back i have not stopped crying since last night i am not handleing it well but i cant show my mum i cant go and see her just know as i now have a cold the most important thing i know is i still have her so thank you everyone

Liz, we will pray for your and your family, this tears at all the family along with the cancer patient...Please know that you are in our thoughts and our hearts...keep us inform of her progress, or if u just need to talk...always Vicki

so sad to read about your mum
I wil pray for mum and all the family to have strenght to get through this awful Cancer.
Belive me it happens to so many NICE people it is hard to understand why?
maybe they have the strength to cope!
anything you ned snswering I am sure on RDOC soneone willl answer you

god bles

Paul

Liz--of course it is very hard for you to cope with and it is very difficlt not to break down in front of your mother. I know because my mother had cancer of the oesophagus which I knew was inoperable at her age, and keeping up the charade of all being well was realy hellish.
Throat cancer runs in the females in our family unfortunately. Grandmother, mother. aunt and now me. But I am NOT going to die from it. Not for years and years and years anyway. I told them that upstairs...
But back to you. Seeing your mother the first time will be the worst and it will be a great test of your love for her that you don't look as shattered as you feel. Obviously show your concern. Your mother isn't daft and it would be out of character for you to be hard and matter-of-fact. But I think you'll find that striking a happy medium will come naturally to you. It is a cliche but we do find strength.
My own children are probably having a bit of a tussle with their emotions about me as this has been going on for over five years now. It is bound to be a strain but they certainly manage to hide it when they ask me to have the grandchildren for an hour or five!
I hope and pray that your mother gets over this. It will be a long haul but it sounds as if she has had an amazing op.
All heartfelt good wishes Ishbel

thanks everyone i am going to see her tonight now my cold has gone but i need to find someone to watch my kids so i can go and see her as they are not alowed and when i saw her for the first time i was shocked so i can see why all we can do now is wait they said september befor she is home i want her to come and live with me as my sister works and so does her man who will be left to look after her kids mum so no chance is she going my mum is 65 and has done her bit of raising kids dont get me wrong my sister loves my mum and want the best for her but i can see what road that it leads to i know my sister anyway mum wont go she is too indepenent for that thanks again for listening

Hi Liz, Great news about your mum I am so glad for you all.
The healing takes a long time so just be patient
As for Mum choosing where to live you dont say if she has to have any follow up tretment?
You say she had Cancer of the Mouth where exactly?
tell me to mind my own buisness if you so wish

It just easier for people who have had same kind of operation to answer you questions

Paul

hi paul
sorry i didnt get back to you sooner i took another one of my turns again i was rushed it hospital mum had tumour growing on the floor of her mouth and under her toungue which spread to he glands at the side of her neck she is going for an other operationm to remove dead tissue from her the tip of her tongue she got her drain removed and the all the drips she is on a speacial feed as she cant eat and she had a tube in her throat which will be removed when the swelling goes down she has then to have radiotherapy to kill off any cancer that might still be there and that should be her i hope i want to be with her when they give her the alll clear

Hi Liz, hope all goes well with your mums operation and with the radiotherapy. Keep us informed.
Cheers Maurice

Hi Liz

The period after the surgery is difficult. It will get better, as the others will tell you. Do keep us posted of how your mum (and you) are doing. We will be here to lend a ear and offer any advice if we can.

Best wishes
Vinod :coffee:

hi i am worried about mums toungue she has some dead tissue on the end of her tougue which seem to be getting worse they said that the were going to operate on her toungue to remove this but she has mucus and catarre but have not given her anything to clear it as i was in on monday and i was asked to wait out side she was ok after a few minutes the mucus is blocking her tube in her throught

hi i am going to see my mums consultant on monday afternoon they told mum a couple of weeks ago that they needed to operate on her tunge to remove dead flesh and that was the last said about it can any help me on what i can ask him

Hi LIz, Hope Mum & yourself are bearing up its not easy

I had part of my toungue removed about 2 weeks after Surgery
They told me it had gone black and needed to be cut out.
It was done under Local and I did not feel a thing but I must say it has affected me very much now with problems with eating and speaking but hey that the least on my worries