hi
i know i have cheek as i left but please help
i found out today that my oldest brother yes the on mum treated very badly he has been diagnosed with cancer too i can't go through this again half of me is saying tough luck asfter what he did to mum but the other half is scared stiff because of what mum went through i can't go see him i just can't i don't even have the bottle to go to mums grave let alone go to see him in hospital what makes it worse is he is under the same doctor as my mum and in the same ward too
i know i left and i will understand if nobody want to help but i don't know who else to turn to
liz

Hi Liz I don't think there's any need for apologies. The site is here to try and help.

I wish I could give you some helpful suggestions but all I can come up with is to ask what you think your Mum would do if she were still alive. My betting is that she'd visit the hospital. I know it'll be tough and will need a lot of courage from you.

I hope that there'll be somebody out there who can advise you better than I.

Dear Liz Please don't apologise for coming back to this site or even to think that we wouldn't want to help you. I have been wondering how you are but am so sorry that it has taken this terrible news to bring you back here. I don't know the details that you refer to between your brother and your dear Mum and I don't expect you to go into it. It seems tragic that you have been put in this situation and tragic that your brother should be suffering from cancer too. You can only do what you feel is right for you - you are still grieving for your Mum and those feelings will still be very raw. Don't be too hard on yourself - give yourself time to heal a bit and take life in "little steps" - tomorrow you might feel differently - or maybe the next day - there's no rush. You don't have to be brave - cry all you want - tears can be a form of healing and perhaps, eventually, you can make decisions that you just can't face at the moment. If it helps, you can send a private message to anyone on here or just keep doing as you have done and we will all be here to help and support you. With love Brenda x