Thank-You all for your kind words, thoughts and prayers. My dad passed away peacefully & pain free last night (030706) at 10.45pm gmt with mum by his side. It may sound selfish but what a sense of relief as though a very large weight has been lifted. Mum appears ok just now trying to be brave for us but after 42 years it is really hard. Unfortunatley it was 1 hour b4 my daughters 16th birthday, but that was dad through abnd through stubborn to wait. Dads birthday was a day b4 my sons there must be a cosmic link between them all eh??
Anyway again thankyou all so much and i will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, hopefully if some one reads any of the pain i have endured in the past 3 months it will help them fight through when times are tough or if a memeber of their family feels like dad did.
I will check in every so often and maybe have a rant or share a happy thought with you all.

Yours

Tracy-Ann Aiton

Hello Tracey-ann,

I offer my condolence to you and your family not least your Mum on your loss and you must not feel guilty about the relief that you feel, this is natural and understandable: your Dad has been released from all his suffering and in the fullness of time you will learn to give thanks for his life and everything he so unselfishly gave you and your family. For the immediate future all these things will cause pain and stinging tears which again is the natural process of grieving and letting go.

We are all comforted that you found support here and you too give support in sharing your pain with others, putting in words what others may find impossible to do.

My thoughts must be with you and your family, but take care of your Mum, she may be too busy between now and the funeral to think too deeply about her loss, but afterwards keep a loving eye on her: give her space of course, but be there when she needs you, she will let you know when in her own way. Above all encourage Mum to talk about Dad and listen very carefully to what she says, do not be embarrassed by her tears no more than she will be embarrassed by yours or your siblings.

42 years is a lifetime a generation, they have been a partnership all that time and now it is different, be aware that a part of your Mum died with your father yesterday for he can never be relaced but his life can be celebrated his physical presence has gone but his spirit will live in your Mum and you and your siblings throughout your lives in the countless memories he gifted.

Above all love never dies its power is supernatural and survives in the hearts of your Dad's family forever, eternally for those with Faith.

May the Lord shine His face upon each of you and give you all peace. Amen

Alan