Hello all.
Went to Cookridge today and the Doctor told Matthew and myself that there is nothing else they can do for him and his condition is terminal now!!!!!!! Can't believe it and can't deal with it, how do we go on from here? what do we do? We are both shell shocked and sick.
Michelle.

Hello Michelle

So sorry to hear this. It must be terrible for both of you. What can I say? All we can do in an unpredictable world is to live our lives as best we can and take from it the joy there is. Enjoy your time together and do the things you want for tomorrow may never come for many of us though we never think about it, and so we forget to say the things we wished we had said. Use the time left (and no one knows how long that might be) to show your love to one another.

Best wishes
Vinod

Hi Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear that. I agree with Dr. Joshi. I'll pray for you.
Cathy

Hello Michelle,
I am so sorry to hear your sad news,I am not normally lost for words but I don't think the appropriate ones have been invented.
God bless you both
John

Hi Michelle
So sorry to hear your news, know exactly how you feel having been there 7 months ago.
The only 'advice' I can give you is to try not to think about the diagnosis and to do the things you want to do and have the conversations you need to have now.We tried to keep positive right till the end, doing the things that Paul enjoyed and trying to give him special time with the children ( mine are 10 and 15). Keep hoping, miracles do happen sometimes! We had 7 months that doctors said we wouldn't have.If you need to talk please let me know
Jennie

HI MICHELLE,

I AM NEW TO THIS SITE, BUT HAVE READ YOUR POSTS AND WANT YOU TO KNOW MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU AT THIS MOST DIFFICULT TIME IN YOUR LIFE.

GODSPEED.
JO

Dear Michelle

Just over a year ago I was told the same thing. Words cannot describe the pain that stabs your heart whenever you think about it.

If it is any consolation for you, I'd like to share my experience. Looking back, the time between being told his cancer was terminal, and his passing away 5 months later, - well, this time was soooo special.

We connected on an emotional level which we hadn't found before, going through 'normal' life. Even if talking was hard, the unspoken communication between us was so strong. In those few months our love for each other grew more and more each day. Nothing was taken for granted. Never had holding hands been such a thrill, or a smile or a wink meant so much. I truly cherish these memories and I often think back to them and smile.

I believe that unless you have faced this situation, you cannot reach that level of love because it is something that cannot be imagined.

No-one can take these memories away from me. You must do all you can to make special memories for you and your family. Cherish your time together. Say what needs to be said.

But most of all, don't give up hope. Keep praying. People do beat the odds. There is no reason why it won't be you and Matthew.

Thinking of you, and praying for you both.

love

Kezia

Oh Michelle --God Bless Matthew and you.. Our hearts go out to you and your families before, during and after...I am here if you need me....Vicki Lynn

Hi Michelle, I am so sorry about your news. However, just remember that somtimes doctors can be wrong. So tell Matthew to try and be strong and fight it all the way. Make sure you both enjoy and treasure what time you have left.
You will both be in my prayers
Maurice