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I thought this would be a good place to copy well written Sharifah's Good Bye, Ananth to Ananth on her blog. I wrote a couple of comments on her posting which I would like to share.

Your good bye message to Ananth contains similar thoughts from many of us who exchanged thoughts and ideas via the internet with a person who selfeshly took the time to befriend, educate and inspire others like myself to realize we should live our lives to the fullest and make the best of whatever time we have left. Thanks Sharifah for this write-up.

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Tuesday, December 01, 2009
Good Bye, Ananth
Hello to all,

Another head and neck cancer warrior, Ananth Shenoy went to meet his maker on November 20th in his sleep after battling a fierce battle for almost 10 years. He was one of my cyber friends whom I befriended after I myself was hit by this unforgiving cancer. His passing saddens me to the core. He was constantly motivating, inspiring and had never lost for words when it comes to uplifting the spirits of fellow cancer survivors. I am one of those lucky people who had the opportunity to get to know him and whose lives he touched. When I underwent my second surgery in August last year, he wrote to the Mouth Cancer Foundation Forum informing everybody and asking everybody to pray for my recovery and when I did recover, he wrote to me and said that it was the best news he had ever got. How could you not like such a person even though you've never met? How could you not feel anything when such a person is gone? The world seems quiet without him.

We chatted through yahoo messenger several times. I talked to him about the shortcomings I face socially for being tongueless, about how people just look at you in a certain way once you start saying something and sometimes they just look the other way just because they have a hard time understanding you. Its as though trying to understand you is so hard and laborious and is such a waste of their precious time. We talked about having to resort to the PEG tube for food and how embarrassing it could be having to do it in public. And he never failed to make me feel good about myself again. He said that if others refuse to pause and try to understand what I have to say, then, its their loss because I have a lot of great ideas to share and I can understand perfectly what they have to share. In other words, I can enrich myself from them, but they can't.

He would use him own experience in the cancer journey to point out how fortunate I am compared to him, He said that he's willing to trade places with me anytime..

The last time I chatted with him he complained that he was in a lot of pain and was taking doses of morphine to numb the pain, And now, he's gone...and all that pain is over...

Rest in peace, Ananth. You are terribly missed!

Sharifah

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Sharifah's blog url.

http://hiduplama.blogspot.com/

when visiting RDOC i frequently bring up Sharifah's blog and let the upbeat music play while I am reading the RDOC comments. it helps one not to be so down when reading messages of ordeals some of our fellow posters are going through.......

i am so saddened by ananth's passing,i really thought things were looking up for him.i will miss my friend very much,he was my facebook friend and we also traded emails etc.my love and thoughts go to his beloved sonya and his boys that he was so proud of and his furry friend budo,god bless love shirl xxx

So sorry to hear about Ananth, a bright spirit.

I am so sorry to read of Ananth's passing. He was so very kind and wise when I needed help.

Rest in Peace. x

Hello Everyone,
This is Sonya here.
Its soon going to be a year without Ananth and even today all of us miss him so much.
I am thankful to all of you for being there for him thru out his journey.
Love you all.
You can keep in touch with me on sonyashenoy@gmail.com
Love
Sonya

Hi Sonya

It's hard to believe that Ananth has been gone nearly a year. I frequently have "what would Ananth say?" moments when I'm writing to new members here on the site. Thank you for sharing him with us.

I hope you and your sons are doing well.

Julia

Yes likewise, I hope youand your sons are coping ok. Hagg.

Hello Julia and Hagg,
We are all doing fine and i have just been busy with my work.

Its great to hear from all of you........keep in touch.

Lots of love
Sonya

Hello All

After being away from this website for so long I am really just so sad & emotional to learn of the passing of several of our friends I was catching up on different posts and having a laugh at the comedy that Ananth always supplied, often due to his abundance of self confidence...then "BAM" suddenly I see the R.I.P that our friend passed in his sleep on 20th November last year. I just honestly cannot believe it.

Ananth was right in describing himself as a citizen of the world...well travelled, open minded, spoke several languages & then of course there is that whole stint of walking the runways of Milan for Valentino?!!

My prayers and thoughts are with you Sonya and both of your boys...our online world here is certainly blessed to have shared the company and friendship of such a special & unique individual as your husband. He will be forever remembered for his generousity of spirit, his genuine care & compassion for fellow head and neck 'C' survivors, his strength of character and his unwavering positive attitude in the face of such adversity.

Love & Light to you Ananth
See you on the flip side
Kelley x x