Hello Everyone

My dad passed away last Saturday due to cancer that had gone from his throat /liver and then to his brain. He was aware of everything that was going on but its been a tough 1 1/2. Feb would of been the anniversary of his surgery but things did not work out as planned. He was a caring gentle man and will be missed. I read the survior stories and I am glad some of you get over this and can lead somewhat a normal life but then again is life ever normal after cancer. We all expected him to go but not so soon we thought he has at least a year but the cancer travelled to his liver and just took over and in his stomach and lung he went right thru him. To others going thru this themselves of family memebers you have to be strong and try to think positive. My dad was willing to try anything to try and fight this the chemo just didnt work. I am well aware of the early signs of throat cancer now. I was thinking of starting something over here in the US a walk or bike ride to help fight this diease. Nobody really seems to know about it and I believe that education is key. I will miss my Dad greatly as will my Mother. It was just so hard seeing an active guy go downhill but I know he isnt in any pain and is in a better place now. I wish all you the best of luck.

God Bless

Hello eyecandy

We all miss our departed loved ones. Your dad will live on in your memories. He is in no more pain now and the pain you feel will also pass with time. Take care of your mum, she will need your company.

Let me know if you need any help with any awareness project you plan. But take it easy now.

Best wishes
Vinod

hi eyecandy

im really sorry to hear of your loss... but he will forever be in your heart and you cant lose that........in time you will remember all the good times you had

take care and best wishes

jeff

Hi eyecandy,
I find it a strange reaction when people say I am a fighter. I am not but someone very practical. What has to happen will hapeen and there is no turning the clock back however we may want to. I am glad that your Dad passed away peacefully and is now free of all pain and worries.
I have been keeping a certain mail in my inbox which I would like to share with all of you'll. I really do not know if this will make any sense or have a connection to the sad occasion - but I feel it does give a lot of peace. Here goes:

MOMENTS IN LIFE


There are moments in life when you miss someone
so much that you just want to pick them from
your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often times we look so long at the
closed door that we don't see the one,
which has been opened for us.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
because it takes only a smile to
make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;
be what you want to be,
because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things
you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human and
enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of
everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always
be based on a forgotten past;
you can't go forward in life until
you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying
and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end,
you're the one who is smiling and everyone
around you is crying.

thank you for those kind words. Its just so sad without him but I know he is no longer in pain its just my mom I am worried about she is only 60 and alone for the first time in 38 years (wedding anniversary is today). We all know my Dad fought as hard as he could but in the end the Cancer beat him. I will miss him and I do dream of him here and there. I remember my dream the other night and we were talking (cant remember what about) but I do remember to ask him to come back and thats when the conversation ended and I woke up. Just to hug him one more time to tell him I love him is all I want but unfortunatley that isnt going to happen. I know its about being positive as I try some days are just harder then others

Hello,
Just read your post. sorry to hear of your dads passing. My dad has recently been very ill, he survived throat cancer 20 years ago and remained cancer free, until August 2006 when he was diagnosed with cancer in a gland in his neck. This was too deep seated to be removed and he has undergone six weeks of intensive radiotheraphy, this has resulted in complications. He has been nil by mouth for about the past four weeks and is being fed through a peg/tube, he also contracted pruemonia and a 'bug' in his blood.
We have come very close to losing him and it has been very traumatic.
I know what you mean when you say about seeing someone go down hill so quickly. But thank the lord dad is still with us and hopefully will get stronger, but I know what you have been through and I offer you my best wishes.
Love
dee

Thank you Dee for those kind words. It has been awhile since I posted but I am getting on. Life does go on for my Mom and me. My dad tried to stay positive the whole time and the doctors were good about controlling the pain. I look at life differently now.. Live /Laugh and Love and do as much as you can because life can turn so quickly on you. I pray your father will be ok and be strong for him I know its hard to do but positive energy is good.

Take Care