Sorry to have to tell you that Paul died peacefully this afternoon
Jennie, Caroline and Joshua

Hello Jenny

What can I say at a time like this? I am sorry that you have lost your husband and Caroline and Joshua have lost their father. You have been through so much together these last two years. It has been one thing after another and Paul tried so hard. You have been magnificient in holding the family together. Now you must take care of one another and be strong for each other. Take care.

Best wishes
Vinod

Dear Jenny I am so sorry to hear this very sad news. I truly am shocked. God bless you all. Brenda.

Words cannot express how I am feeling for you at this sad time.My thoughts will be with you.

Dear Dear Jennie, I'm so sorry about your husband. At least he is free of pain now and happy. Please keep in touch. I'll say a prayer
for you and your children.
Cathy

Hi guys
thanks for your support, still in shock really and can't seem to stop crying, think its 2 years worth coming out! Funeral is on Tuesday and i am dreading it, just hope i can hold it together. Josh is doing a tribute to his Dad, I will post it when i feel stronger. One thing i am going to do is to get hold of Paul's medical records, i feel really cheated because he should not have died when he did, the death certificate said throat cancer but he was bleeding from the stomach-don't know if Dr Josh has any ideas about this?Will speak to you soon, sorry if it's a bit rambling
Jennie

Dear Jennie (and Caroline & Joshua)

I am so so sorry to hear your news. I am sure you are all understandably devastated and angry at this time.

I have been where you are right now. My husband passed away in December from cancer of the tongue, and I haven't been on the board much since then.

However, I have found a few organisations which have helped me over the last 3 months which I would like to share with you so that you can look them up if you wish when you are ready.

www.ywbb.org
This is the Young Widows Bulletin Board, which is a forum like this one for young widows and widowers. It is mainly americans, but grief is grief whatever nationality you are. It is a great place to talk to people who know what you are going through, and to realise that your feelings are completely normal.

www.wayfoundation.org.uk

The WAY (Widowed and Young) Foundation. A UK based charity. There is a membership fee but there are groups to meet up and have weekends away and things like that.

http://www.nawidows.org.uk/

The National Association of Widows. They have a Young Widows contact list to contact others going through what you are going through, as well as social events etc.

No words I can say will make you feel better at the moment, but I will be thinking of you. The best advice I was given was "take baby steps, take one minute at time" and "be kind to yourself"

Feel free to message me if you want to chat anytime.

with love

spouse

Jennie, Caroline, Joshua and family,
We knew this day was going to come but I prayed so hard that it wouldn't be for a long long time. Paul was just so young to be taken from you. I have been praying that a miracle would happen and take all the bad away and for Paul to be hisself once again. It just didn't happen that way, did it. Jennie you have been remarkable. I wish you could see yourself as all of us see you. You cry now, you cry all those tears that you held back so long trying to be strong for everyone. I would give the world if I could be there with you on tuesday. No, you don't know me and I am not family but I would hold your hand, cook, clean, I would do something, anything to try to make things easier for you. Can we help by sending a donation to your family? I cannot imagine for a single moment what you are going thru right now. I am here tho if you ever need someone to talk to...I will listen to you. That much I promise.....Oh Jennie, I am so so sorry that this has happened to such a wonderful man, son, husband, father and friend. He will forever and ever be missed.....All my love, thoughts and prayers,,,,Vicki Lynn.

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HI, ITS CAROLINE, JENNIES DAUGHTER! DOES ANY ONE KNOW A COUNCILLING SITE OR SOMETHING THAT I COULD GO ON? I AM 15! THANKS X X X

Hello Caroline

You could try Tenovus.

The Cancer Research UK Help and Support page may also be helpful. It lists two websites that may offer help:

One is called riprap and is designed to offer support to children between the ages 12 and16 who have a parent affected by cancer. This website does have information about how to get support. It can be found if you click on the brown button called ‘curious’!

The other is called siblinks and is designed to support people aged between 13 and 25 who have siblings or parents with cancer. This website is still under construction and there are some pages that do not have any information on them. But they do have a contact telephone number, 07713 082797 to call for further information.

Both websites have chat forums. Let us know if they are of help. We are also here if you wish to talk.

Best wishes
Vinod

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Caroline sweetheart. I really recommend the websites Dr Joshi has recommended. Our Daughter uses them and she has found them to be deneficial.
I wish you and your family love and strength. Love Michelle. xx

Jennie. I am so so sorry. I wish I could do or say something that could comfort you. I am thinking of you all. With love. Michelle.xx

Hi Michelle
Thanks for your support,its been a very strange 5 months, still not taken it in really. We are off on holiday tomorrow, our first for 3 years, I am partly looking forward to it and partly dreading it, not used to being a single parent but a lot of people seem to cope ok.
I know you must be in a fog right now, can't really say it gets easier think you just get used to things being different. If you need to talk please e-mail me
Jennie

Hello Jennie love.
I am sending you all the love and strength I can.
I am thinking of you and thank you for thinking about us.
Please e-mail me whenever you want and will e-mail you.
How are the Kids? Are you eating and sleeping? Are you getting loads of support?
I am always here. Don't sleep very well, as you'll understand. I will leave my phone number on private message.
Please take care and love each other.
Lots of love from Michelle.xx